This really fills up my curiosity, it’s real biased if I were to say that I’ve stumbled across many aspie Youtube celebrities or even just well-known female aspie YouTube vloggers from around the world. Many examples include Willow Hope, DizzyDollie7, TheAnmish, Nicole337, The Autistic Witch, CuriosityRocks.
What do they all have in common? Most of them are in fact married women. I think it’s because they were part of that social norm of the man like any case, asking the woman out of a date out of the blue or even just starting off as friends getting to know each other; and even the man being the first then the other woman to say he’s attracted to her for so many reasons.
It’s the lead-ups that the men got to follow up on ad “be a man” that way. Some aspie men can’t even picked the signs of a woman being attracted to them or not through the body language, tone of voice and not being able to sense women’s disinterest in conversation no short or long and interest in conversation as well.
Okay, I really don’t know what the case is with this issue if it sounds to you that it’s a little farfetched what I said so far. I reckon there’s some human science behind it with evidence of human instinct to attrract the other half and who does it first majority of the time for proving grounds to prove the braver one.
As for me stumbling across male aspie vloggers, most of them have vlogs talking about their struggles finding a girlfriend or just waiting for the right one to come or even just someone who may just be a good run for a period of time before breaking up (not to be too negative).
It even strikes me is that they express anxiousness talking about how they seemed to not be able to hold decent conversations with women while not specifying each woman as aspie or a neurotype; and this also applies to struggling to be able to ask out women or woo a women over somehow with talking about their skills and talents they possess.
Also, they are talking about issues with how they don’t feel confident enough to thinking they are boyfriend material or to even start somewhere to find a woman they’re attracted with and see if the women are attracted right back at them somehow. It’s more so that they feel like it’s really not fair for aspie men to have to be brave to ask out women on dates, build conversations with women they’re interested in and make sure they’re still interested in them that way. The same applies if they did activities together as friends which is more a real interest for the aspie man but not so much the woman at all but she tries to appreciate your interests, but but not enough that she can see herself with that aspie man with what she had already gathered altogether earlier on and later on.
I’m not saying its all about having those colourful feathers to flutter around to attract those female birds, but just communication involved in having women getting to know aspie men personally and emotionally that leads them wondering if there’s a connection with the men gets quite unhinged sometimes with the limited interests or uncommon interests at play and the type of personality they have.
Even some can be picky with what an aspie men could be wearing who has no fashion-sense and yet its all for identity and to show that they “don’t change for others” when in fact they can be showing that they’re juvenile in appearances and in their minds as well, which ironically can tie in with activities they do alone like playing with nerdy pop-culture collectibles and figurines, making their bedrooms look “kiddy” with how they decorate their rooms to not appear to look like a typical mature adult bedroom in some cases with colour themes of the walls and their bedding.
Anyways, this was a quick article on an odd issue based on a much broader issue relating to relationships and how relationships are initiated out of one of the other of the pairs.